SHOULD YOU DO A FIRST LOOK?

Like many other brides, I toyed with the idea of doing a first look kind of immediately after we got engaged. I wanted to stay traditional and not have my husband see me until I walked down the aisle, but I also wanted a 5pm ceremony in October in New England. I knew we would not have much sunlight after the ceremony and it was very important to me to get a lot of family portraits with both of our extended families. It was also important to me for to get a lot of couple shots, since we did not do professional engagement photos.

Photo credit: Derek Halkett

Photo credit: Derek Halkett

So - we talked with the photographer and decided to do a first look at 2pm and get all of our pictures done between 2pm-4:30pm. I am SO GLAD we did the first look. My husband cried not only at the first look, but also when I walked down the aisle. I was worried he might not have a great reaction when I walked down the aisle since he had already seen me that day, but he still did.

I wanted to share some of what I think the pros/cons are of doing vs. not doing a first look and hopefully it can help you if you are struggling with this decision.

Photo credit: Derek Halkett

Photo credit: Derek Halkett

Pros
- Calmed our nerves
- Was very intimate, just me and my husband
- Was pretty much the only “private time” we had during the day
- Got all of our pictures done early (family photos, wedding party photos, EVERYTHING)
- Enjoyed cocktail hour with our guests
- Got unique shots we would not otherwise have gotten
- Did not have to rush photos
- Did not wear my veil so my look still changed to walk down the aisle

Cons
- Breaks “tradition” of not seeing each other the day of until the ceremony
- Some brides are discouraged by not knowing if they will get a good reaction when they walk down the aisle (but from what I have seen, most still do)

If a first look with your husband is not for you, there are other alternatives like doing a first look with your dad or grandfather. All in all it is a personal choice, but if you are on the fence I would highly recommend doing it!

Xoxo,
Kyrsti

Photo credit: Derek Halkett

Photo credit: Derek Halkett

Kyrsti Tam